And What Happened To Love?
photo by Lisa Wassmann
Berlin seems like a cul-de-sac for love. Apart from a few happy couples most boys and girls, straight or gay, complain about not having a relationship, about not finding the right man or woman. Impossible in a city like Berlin, with hundreds of nightclubs, bars, cafes and other hang-outs? Clearly not. The hunt for more and for someone better, neverending. Especially the party scene seems to offer opportunities, but in fact turns out being a love-killer. Read more after the jump:
Longer relationships seem to have no chance, after a calm down of the early passionate feelings, there is always a more interesting target: just another model, the new intern of some agency or a now popular DJ. Did you just announce on Facebook that you are ‘in a relationship’? Turn it into ‘single’ right away. The hunting continues.
Girls who’d only start affairs with guys if they are able to organize them a model job, boys who are proud of having had almost every girl in the club and folks who constantly fall in love with those who refuse them. A pretty girl I know, silky hair and perfect body, only meets guys who later admit having a girlfriend. But they’d never decide in favour of her.
One of my friends is convinced that there are only gay men in this town and has simply given up searching. A gay friend on the other hand is rather attracted by himself. He says he doesn’t want to waste himself on one guy only. At least not before he reaches the age of 35 (which will be in ten years). ‘Love is too difficult, I rather have fun’.
I’ve been talking to this girl who is secretely in love with that guy. It’s only to see him that she goes out on a Saturday night. They are having sex with each other every once in a while but none of them ever used the word love. And she’d never tell him about her feelings though she is suffering a lot. But if she did, he would lose interest, she says.
All of the mentioned either have a broken heart or are secretly longing for a relationship. But why is it so hard? Do feelings and passion simply get lost in this town? Is vanity the simple reason? Playing the love game is about rejecting and getting rejected. It certainly needs courage to find the right one. If you are lucky, you’ll win the game and get back twice as much. And sometimes you’ll lose it all.
Perhaps you already met the one, but you haven’t realized yet being busied looking for better? Find out what happened to love. Call her or him. Go over and give her/him a long kiss that tells it all. Do it tonight. Before it’s too late!
by Suz
on May 22nd, 2010
in Berlinstories
13 Comments »
May 22nd, 2010 at 16:51h
vielen dank für diese worte! Genauso ging es mir, als ich ihn letzten herbst kennenlernte. Aber da war soviel anderes, und natürlich die Angst sich zu öffnen. Lieber rein ins Leben, vergessen was man im Inneren wikrlich wünscht. Aber was ist der Preis dafür? Wir wollen Grenzen überwinden, intensiv leben, aber sind nicht in der Lage uns für die Liebe zu öffnen. Dabei ist sie doch da sintensivste Erlebnis schlechthin! Ich denke noch jeden Tag an ihn und wünschte ich hätte erkannt…
Man kann nur draus lernen. Liebe kann uns womöglich mehr geben als wir uns glauben machen wollen. Aber ohne sie ist es ja leichter…
May 22nd, 2010 at 17:19h
der artikel könnte, in deutscher sprache, wohl gemerkt, ebenso in der bravo veröffentlicht worden sein. gratulation.
May 22nd, 2010 at 18:16h
Phew! Thanks for the heads up. I was just surfing around the web for some ideas what to do in Berlin when I get there while on holiday.
Well, I was hoping to get more into the art scene over there, anyways
May 22nd, 2010 at 18:35h
Remembers me a little this post I wrote nearly a year ago. History is repeating itself….;-)
http://www.iheartberlin.de/2009/07/03/love-resisters/#more-3629
May 23rd, 2010 at 03:18h
sehr guter Artikel, trifft fast alles auf den Punkt – danke und weiter so
May 23rd, 2010 at 16:04h
Ich wünschte mal, wir hätten die Reichweite der Bravo…
May 23rd, 2010 at 16:37h
[...] ❤ getting to a club in the dark and leaving it when it’s light again – I love this just as much as I hate it ❤ lunch with the family – we went to the most amazing Vietnamese place in Prenzlauer Berg & I had duck with peanut sauce & mango lassi ❤ this ❤ strobelight, smoke & Indie disco like it’s 2005 ❤ looking forward to things ❤ avocados with salt ❤ making mixtapes ❤ taking my brother to a gig – we went to see The Cinematics last night ❤ the weather – it’s so nice & warm & sunny, I can feel the summer coming! ❤ attempting to get a proper tan – going to the sunbeds is quite expensive but extremely relaxing ❤ meeting new people ❤ the prospect of maybe being at Way Out West Festival in Sweden this year ❤ these sloths ❤ being the German correspondent for my friends who are planning on moving over ❤ surviving ❤ Johnny’s Bird ❤ “If we’re stuck on this ship and it’s sinking, then we might as well have a parade.” ❤ designing my invoices – I haven’t sent out many yet but if I do, I want them to look nice ❤ coming home in the morning & falling asleep to old “Kommissar Rex” episodes on TV ❤ this dog ❤ waffles with ice cream ❤ And What Happened To Love? [...]
May 23rd, 2010 at 23:30h
würde gern für die Bravo schreiben!
May 24th, 2010 at 15:10h
Great article!!!
The very same situation over here, in Budapest…
May 24th, 2010 at 15:22h
Die Bravo war übrigens auch im Lab mit Lady Gaga und hat einen 3 seitigen Artikel darüber verfasst. Es fehlt das Wort ‘Schwarm’ damit der Artikel Bravo tauglich ist.
May 26th, 2010 at 15:27h
Wunderschönes Foto!
July 2nd, 2010 at 00:36h
was für eine jungmädchentagebuch scheisse.
berlin is soooo amazing.
July 2nd, 2010 at 00:49h
du, karibikklaus, wir schreiben ja hier auch nicht für alte Herren. da geh mal zu http://www.meinekrückenhabenauchschonbesseretagegesehen.de