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I pronounce myself guilty for not having written a flirting in Berlin column for a quite a while. To be honest, I was not really in the flirting mood in the last months. The reasons: the classic Dating Dilemma. If you have no dates you feel empty and like nothing really exciting is happening anymore. Just if you are meeting someone, your emotions (or let’s just say my emotions) are going overboard so fucking easy that it is hard to handle all the normal things in life. The only good thing about the Dating Dilemma in Berlin: You are not the only one. Nearly all my single friends are in the same excruciating situation. Not meeting somebody is boring but meeting somebody makes your nerves go nuts. Why is it so hard in Berlin just to find the right person to be happy with?
The guys from We are now are going out on the streets of Berlin asking people about it. All of that gives no answers to the big WHY AM I STILL SINGLE question. But at least you realize that you are not alone. Everybody has the same struggles, insecurities and weird thoughts about love. But maybe learning to love is truly about that. Sharing your struggles with same-minded people and also find a way to laugh away the little fears inside you. Watch the video after the jump.
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by Claudio
on June 13th, 2014
updated on June 14th, 2014
in Stories
Hey I read this and the latest article on Dating In Berlin and found both quite entertaining. I thought I would give my opinion based on my feelings so far.
I’ve been in Berlin about 4months now, am mature aged, confident, of mediteranean descent, and originate from Australia. If you know Australians we are happy gonlucky abd outgoing people. I am definately these and love to meet and talk to anyone and everyone
So dating in Berlin. Its non existant. I mean, you guys are going on about it lioe the peoblem is some big f#king mystery that no one can solve LOL. Are you kidding me!!! Women here are f#king void of emotion! Cold! No one looks at ea h other, no one smiles at each other. I ride my bike and smile at women, i get nothing! People here dont even know how to respond! Whats so f#king difficult about smiling back at some?? Jeezus..is this place for real? Am i in the 18th century??? Or is it that everyone thinks theyre just too cool for each other. Its not a big secret or mystery, people here have no social abilities. I recently joined OKcupid..and had 32 Likes in my first 3 days…but no messages or a “hi” from any of those 32 women. So i said hi and introduced myself. No reply from anyone. Wtf??!! In Melbourne dating is crazy, people go on dates for fun, have a drink and some company, if theres no chemistry so what, say thankyou and good night, or have sex. Nothing ventured nothing gained!
Well thats my experience with dating here so far, as a very outgoing person, who meets and talks to everyone, im finding it rather strange how people just dont respond, or look, or notice each other. Everyones just hanging out, theres no flirting, theres no fun. Just existing in this “cool” city for the sake of naming rights.
I completely hear u John! I have lived abroad some time and whenever I come back to Berlin I’m slightly amused / shocked by the freaking inability of people to smile at you, have a little chat or just to behave friendly. Everybody’s just too busy being cool I suppose…or it’s the lack of sun that makes peeps grumpy here, another theory of mine 😉 cheers & a big smile from a Berlin lady
Hey John,
you write you meet and talk to everyone. That is very good and i think it is good to be open to everybody.
But in berlin that does not work out with flirting. The other person will notice you are the kind of fliritng with everyone person. you see the problem… most berliners i know lookig for something deeper and profound. thats why they moved to berlin.
people are also only “cool” on the first glance. its a protection against shallowness.
if you are showing genuinely interest or honest deep smile in any berliner, may it your späti vendor, your bus driver or your flirt, people will put their coolness aside and open up to you.
if the person does not, it probably just moved here not so long ago as well. cause that the trap which can happen to anyone moving here new. thinking to have to adapt to the “coolness”. but it is not about being cool, it is about being honest and deep to everyone who learned to see that, too.
i moved here 7 years ago and it took me quite a while to understand all that… but once i did, i understood the deeper meaning and being (a berliner) behind it…
No idea after 6 months.