It is common knowledge that our generation of digital native, commitment-phobic cellphone-addicts has developed some fun, new and exciting neuroses. One of them being described as FOMO – the Fear of Missing Out.
Missing out on what? You don’t even have to be a social media addict to know this fear, but if you are, it might be even worse. You will check your Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat so frequently that it sometimes feels like there is something amazing happening all. the. time. But there is one important thing you have to learn in Berlin as soon as possible: deal with your FOMO.
Most people, when moving to a city like Berlin, don’t do this coincidentally. They have something in mind beforehand. They imagine a different life, which might be more colorful, more exciting, more adventurous than what they are used to. It is easy to experience the euphoria of life here in Berlin, because there is always something going on and by always i literally mean always. No matter what time of the day it is, clubs are open. You can go dancing, look at art, eat things you’ve never tasted before, meet people you would otherwise never meet, find places you haven’t seen before. You try to indulge all of that. After working a full-time job, you basically run out of the office, hungry to get to know the city until it stops to feel like a pleasure, but more like a chore. To avoid a total Berlin-Burnout after your never-ending FOMO, you might follow these easy steps:
Step One: Shift your Focus
Missing out, as a concept, is questionable anyway, since whatever you are deciding to do or not to do, you are always doing something. Remind yourself that, when you are not at that party everyone talks about, you are somewhere else, experiencing something else. There is no doing nothing. Lying in bed is something, watching a movie, listening to a full album is something.
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Step Two: Filter
Think about what the things are that you actually like to spend your time with. Not because you feel like you should, because your friends do them or because they are a thing lately. Find things that you actually like to do, if it is going to a reading, finding a nerdy hobby or take a dancing class on Berlin rooftops.
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Step Three: Relax
There is always something that you can miss, but that shouldn’t be a reason for you to give up on precious hours spent home alone with yourself, going our for Dinner, taking a trip outside of town – whatever calms you down. Sometimes you need to charge your batteries. Allow yourself a break. Feel the luxury of boredom, so you can dive into the craziness of life again with energy and enthusiasm.
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Step Four: Enjoy
After following the first three steps, you will be able to enjoy doing a lot of stuff again, because you have now established something in your life that i’d like to call life-life balance. Kind of sad that it feels neccessary to learn how to spend your private life, but the social part of life can become quite stressfull and just as every other part of life, it needs some kind of structure and rythm that you feel comfortable with and that has to be individual. So stay home, whenever you want to and go out, when you feel like it and overcome your FOMO!