As one can tell from the drastic shift in the outdoor clothing of many a Berliner (their flamboyant outfits are no longer covered by the oversized black/leopard print furs), spring is almost upon us. Tattoos will soon be exposed, blankets will be thrown on the Mauerpark ground, and you’ll drain Sterni in massive quantities. ‘Tis the season for love, but you’re still hung up on your latest flame? Unbreak your heart following these 5 easy steps.
photo: Saskia Bauermeister
At first it lures you in with the promise of freedom, fulfillment, love and pleasure. But you will soon find out the reality is quite a different one. It will make sure to feed you with little crumbs of each of its promises, but you will remain hungry and starving.
It speaks so many languages, but you will still find it hard to fully understand it. It will give you the cold shoulder, when all you need is a warm hug. It will keep you in a state of uncertainty, give you just enough to keep you hoping for more, but never enough to make you feel save. It will dance the night away to techno and drugs while all you want is a cosy night at home. It will give you cheap pizza on the street corner when you want a candle lit dinner. It will be your friend, when all you want is a lover. It will keep it casual, when you want to commit. And all the while it’s dating so many others at the same time. And you fear one day you will not be enough.
Berlin seems like a cul-de-sac for love. Apart from a few happy couples most boys and girls, straight or gay, complain about not having a relationship, about not finding the right man or woman. Impossible in a city like Berlin, with hundreds of nightclubs, bars, cafes and other hang-outs? Clearly not. The hunt for more and for someone better, never-ending. Especially the party scene seems to offer opportunities, but in fact turns out being a love-killer.
Longer relationships seem to have no chance, after a calm down of the early passionate feelings, there is always a more interesting target: just another model, the new intern of some agency or a now popular DJ. Did you just announce on Facebook that you are ‘in a relationship’? Turn it into ‘single’ right away. The hunting continues.