The Social Media Afterlife of Failed Relationships

Eylul Aslan

photo: Eylül Aslan

I don’t believe in airing my dirty laundry in public. I know how unconvincing that sounds coming from someone who writes a dating column that heavily features her private life, (shut up! You know you love it) but after having the issue resurface several times over several months, I do have to give the issue of social media hygiene a personal treatment.

Sometimes I wish Facebook had a “your ex is not going to this event” feature. Or better yet, there should be a feature that lets you confirm events and then the designated persona non grata would be unable to confirm, or even see, the event.

by Guest Author
on April 28th, 2016
in Stories

Dating in Berlin: Hoe to Marry a Millionaire

Affectionate Relationship by Euginia Loli CC-BY-NC-2.0

artworkEugenia LoliCC*

“Men are all the same, just pick the richest one” seems like a solid framework for the jaded urbanite interested in dating men. I’m not classist, I went out with starving artists left and right, but sometimes a girl needs more than hard dick/clit and Späti beer.

I have toyed with the idea of dating someone with a thick bank account and a thin thread of life after an ex-partner suggested that “the lifestyle would suit” me. And of course I’d love to be the “personal assistant” and bed warmer for Gloria Swanson’s Norma Desmond, but my chances of ending up with some Berlin (read: far less wealthy) version of J. Howard Marshall are much better.

by Guest Author
on April 21st, 2016
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Dating in Berlin: A Threesome with a Unicorn


“So, how did you two meet?” I hear myself ask.

15 years ago the Berlin duo Stereo Total sang about threesomes and here I was, the summer of 2015, meeting another couple for what feels like a therapy session but is really a vetting meeting for a possible threesome. How did I end up with yet another “straight” couple that is queering up their existence with a shared Tinder profile, my dear reader? The answer is simple: Because I’m an excellent middle ground for any couple. I’m cute enough to not be intimidating yet hot enough to provoke desire. I’m running an unregistered non-profit. Headquarters? My pants.

by Guest Author
on April 13th, 2016
in Stories

Berlin Kultour – A Special Tour Through Berlin


photos: Sascha Wolters

Berlin is no place like others when it comes to special corners and Sightseeing. No wonder here, Berlin has a lot of history. With its many Sightseeing possibilities and countless historical buildings, there is probably no corner in the capital that is not worth knowing about. Which is why there are many city guides, leading foreigners through the capital. But also for locals it’s great to get to know one’s own city better. And there is one guide in particular that offers tours around the city with a special twist.

Tobi Allers is the founder of Berlin Kultour and offers around 15 tours through Berlin with different topics, interesting for anyone who is interested in art, culture and history – or just the city he lives in. We met up with him to take an exclusive, intimate version of his tour “Refugees in historical perspective” and got to know a lot. Get some impressions and see some pictures after the jump.

Yasmin by Yasmin
on April 11th, 2016
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Why We Love Spring

Spring by oh_hedwig

photo: oh_hedwig

We’re not alone on this one. Doesn’t everyone enjoy Spring? The blossoming of their surroundings? Isn’t it beautiful for every pair of eyes to see colors again, to feel warm air on their skin?

Spring is the season of hope. It is to a year what the morning is to a day. A beginning, a new start, a hunch. It is an opening, a promise to what might be. With the colorful flowers, the smiles on people’s faces and the memory of a warmth slowly coming back, spring is also high spirits. Drunken from the first soft drafts of air that don’t cut ice cold when inhaling, we all tend to take a leap of faith.

A leap of faith into the sun, out of our scarves. Away from the heating and into the outdoors. A step towards us all, we see ourselves again: Walking freely on the streets, with a swing in our steps. Spring in Berlin is like a flower thriving, each one of us a petal, with our arms open to the sky and to each other.

Yasmin by Yasmin
on April 8th, 2016
in Photos, Stories

Dating in Berlin: Why You Shouldn’t Date German Men

Every Act of Creation is First an Act of Destruction

artworkEugenia LoliCC

Since I started dating I’ve always gone international. There are only a few European countries I haven’t planted my metaphorical flag (yes, this is a dick joke about my metaphorically huge dick). There is only one country whose men (and only men) I try to avoid: Germany. “Why? What have German men ever done to deserve this?” I hear you say, my dear reader. Well, I’m glad you asked…

by Guest Author
on April 5th, 2016
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Mauerpark: A Berlin Institution

Mauerpark Berlin-10

photo: sfreimark / CC

It’s hard to think of anything more quintessentially Berlin than Mauerpark. It contains so much of what this city is about. Is there any phrase more encapsulating of Berlin than “wall park”? It speaks to the city’s storied past, and to our contemporary lifestyle of leisure and charm. Situated on Prenzlauer Berg’s western border with Gesundbrunnen, it’s perhaps the perfect spot to spend a pleasant day, while momentarily reflecting on the city’s history.

Every visitor to Berlin wants  to see the wall. To this end, we have options. There’s the East Side Gallery in Friedrichshain with its famous paintings, there’s Checkpoint Charlie, the most touristy and mainstream spot, there’s the stately, dignified Berlin Wall Memorial (Gedenkstätte Berliner Mauer), and there’s Mauerpark. Mauerpark is cool because it really is a great destination on its own, and is surrounded by the most vibrant neighborhood out of these options.

Keith by Keith
on April 2nd, 2016
in Photos, Prenzlauer Berg, Stories

What it Means to Date in Berlin…

Rowena Waack CC

photo: Rowena Waack / CC

My name is Alix Berber. I’m a girl. I’m in my twenties. I’m bisexual. And my plan is to find Mr. or Mrs. Right(-ish). I’m here to take you on a journey, my dear reader. It will probably be a disastrous (and hopefully entertaining) ride, fueled by bad decisions, online-dating and all the madness that Berlin has to offer.

We all know that one couple that has been a solid, loving fixture on the canvas that is your social circle in Berlin. They’re not crazy in love (well, not anymore) but they stand on a solid platform of mutual affection and comfort. Look at them, marvel in their happy-ish-ness.
They’ll break up – that I promise you.

by Guest Author
on March 28th, 2016
in Stories

Berlin is… Still Too Cold

Dramatic Grey Sky by all.x

photo: all.x

It’s officially Spring now, but you wouldn’t quite know it based on the weather. The first days of spring still show temperatures around 5C.  Things do look to change soon, but it’s dangerous for us to get our hopes up.

We want to believe. We want the sun to arrive and never leave us. But haven’t we been fooled in the past? Hasn’t the winter chill lasted well into April?

Regardless, we can still hope for our winter habits to disappear soon enough, to start going out more, to come out of hibernation. More and more, we can turn those Facebook event statuses from “interested” to “going.” We can look forward to relying less on every club’s coat check, for those piles of coats and scarves in every bar to slowly melt away.

Enjoy the last of those cozy nights in! The movies on your laptop with your winter cuff! Of course you can still enjoy your apartment in the warmer weather, but it won’t be nearly as appealing. Now is the time to start saying goodbye to the habits of the cold…

Keith by Keith
on March 23rd, 2016
in Stories

A Berlin Guide to One Night Stands

Dependable Relationship by Eugenia Loli

artwork: Eugenia Loli / CC

As winter is slowly pulling its icy blanket off of Berlin and spring is upon us, people emerge from hibernation, ready to sow their wild oats. In the wake of weeks of hormonal frolicking I decided to equip you, my dear reader, with a guide on how to briefly enjoy the perks of human company without the backlash of commitment or post-coital crying.

by Guest Author
on March 18th, 2016
in Stories